What does the character of a good friend look like?
Ben Stuart tackles the difficult question of what a true friendship should look like. Walking us through the book of Proverbs, Ben shows us what wisdom literature has to say about how to be a good friend and how to discern if our friendships are healthy and God-honoring.
Scripture References
but the one who has understanding holds their tongue.
More Proverbs of Solomon
1These are more proverbs of Solomon, compiled by the men of Hezekiah king of Judah:
2It is the glory of God to conceal a matter;
to search out a matter is the glory of kings.
3As the heavens are high and the earth is deep,
so the hearts of kings are unsearchable.
4Remove the dross from the silver,
and a silversmith can produce a vessel;
5remove wicked officials from the king’s presence,
and his throne will be established through righteousness.
6Do not exalt yourself in the king’s presence,
and do not claim a place among his great men;
7it is better for him to say to you, “Come up here,”
than for him to humiliate you before his nobles.
What you have seen with your eyes
8do not bring hastily to court,
for what will you do in the end
if your neighbor puts you to shame?
9If you take your neighbor to court,
do not betray another’s confidence,
10or the one who hears it may shame you
and the charge against you will stand.
11Like apples of gold in settings of silver
is a ruling rightly given.
12Like an earring of gold or an ornament of fine gold
is the rebuke of a wise judge to a listening ear.
13Like a snow-cooled drink at harvest time
is a trustworthy messenger to the one who sends him;
he refreshes the spirit of his master.
14Like clouds and wind without rain
is one who boasts of gifts never given.
15Through patience a ruler can be persuaded,
and a gentle tongue can break a bone.
16If you find honey, eat just enough—
too much of it, and you will vomit.
17Seldom set foot in your neighbor’s house—
too much of you, and they will hate you.
18Like a club or a sword or a sharp arrow
is one who gives false testimony against a neighbor.
19Like a broken tooth or a lame foot
is reliance on the unfaithful in a time of trouble.
20Like one who takes away a garment on a cold day,
or like vinegar poured on a wound,
is one who sings songs to a heavy heart.
21If your enemy is hungry, give him food to eat;
if he is thirsty, give him water to drink.
22In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head,
and the
23Like a north wind that brings unexpected rain
is a sly tongue—which provokes a horrified look.
24Better to live on a corner of the roof
than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.
25Like cold water to a weary soul
is good news from a distant land.
26Like a muddied spring or a polluted well
are the righteous who give way to the wicked.
27It is not good to eat too much honey,
nor is it honorable to search out matters that are too deep.
28Like a city whose walls are broken through
is a person who lacks self-control.
but the way of the wicked leads them astray.
but the rich have many friends.
but even the closest friend of the poor person deserts them.
but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
and do not go to your relative’s house when disaster strikes you—
better a neighbor nearby than a relative far away.
how much worse lying lips to a ruler!
than hidden love.
and do not claim a place among his great men;
are spreading nets for their feet.
rather than one who has a flattering tongue.
and the pleasantness of a friend
springs from their heartfelt advice.
so one person sharpens another.
and a gossip separates close friends.
but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends.
too much of you, and they will hate you.
it will be taken as a curse.
or like vinegar poured on a wound,
is one who sings songs to a heavy heart.
