Talk

Our Souls + Our Screens

Ben Stuart
June 3, 2018

Because the world of information can be tapped into at any moment, it has invaded every moment.

What do we run to when we’re in pain? What do we do when we’re uncomfortable? The truth is, that many of us tend to look for ways to distract ourselves from what’s really going on within us, usually through technology.

Ben Stuart challenges us to turn away from diversions and toward intimacy with Jesus. What if we sat with our Creator in moments of discomfort rather than numbing our pain with distraction? If we stop to listen, we might find that God is trying to speak to us.

Key Takeaway

The atmosphere has changed through technology and it's causing unique challenges, we must adapt if we are going to survive. We have to learn to seek God before we seek our phones for distraction and validation. There's not much blessing that He wants to give, so we need to cultivate ways to hear Him.

The atmosphere has changed, so we are going to have to adapt to survive. There's been a massive shift in technology that has diminished our vibrancy. And it has all happened incredibly quickly.

  • Internet was not widely available until the mid-1990s
  • Laptops become a thing (1995)
  • Email shows up (1996)
  • Nintendo 64 (1997)
  • Google was born (1998)
  • Texting across networks (1999)
  • Camera phone (2002)
  • Facebook launched (2004)
  • YouTube (2005)
  • Twitter (2006)
  • First iPhone (2007)
  • Instagram (2010)
  • Snapchat (2011)
  • The word "selfie" was invented (2013)

People are carrying the World Wide Web around in their pockets at all times. The vast majority of people report panic if they don't have their phones on them.

There are obvious upsides to technology. Truly so many opportunities. The problem isn't having access to the internet everywhere, it's that it has access to you. Because endless streams can be tapped into at any moment, they have invaded every moment.

The barrage of information has not made us more intelligent.

IQs, attention spans, friends hanging out, dating, and productivity are all stats that have steadily been dropping.

But here's what is increasing: rates of depression, lack of sleep, dating apps, and STDs. There is a serious lack of social skills because texting has replaced having to talk face-to-face. There is also a lack of commitment to anything and everything because it's much easier to cancel plans when you don't have to see someone's disappointment.

Not only are we disconnected from each other, but from ourselves.

The constant connection has kept us from self-reflection. It used to be that we would stop and think at a stoplight or night. When left alone with our thoughts, we gain insight, that leads to self-awareness which leads to innovation and a change in our life. That solitude used to lead to prayer.

How many billions of prayers have been lost because in our solitude we've substituted our phones for our Maker?

Mark 4:1-20: Parable of the Sower and the Seed.

What keeps us from God? The enemy slowly squeezes out our need for God with the desire for other things. It chokes the blessing in our lives.

Why do we do this?

We do it to avoid discomfort and numb pain. We go to our phones for validation, comfort, escape, and distraction, not for information. We're addicted.

What do we do?

1) Re-embrace salvation instead of validation.

God told Hosea to marry Gomer who would be wildly unfaithful to him. God used this as a picture of what we do to Him. So she went out and embraced every possible vice that she thought would make her happy. Finally, she ends up on a block being sold as a slave and can't even get the going rate. Hosea pays full price for her and brings her home and tenderly cares for her as her husband.

God did that for us. We have chased everything and He paid the full price to save us. In Hosea 2:14-16 He says he will speak tenderly to us and be our husband, providing for every need. God comes towards us. Jesus pursues us. He takes us out into the wilderness because there's no distraction there.

He calls us to the wild and quiet places because speed is the enemy of depth, quickness the enemy of quality: the solution is the cultivation of quietness with Jesus.

2) Pursue restoration instead of distraction.

Jesus had a pattern of having tons of interaction and then getting away. See Mark 1:35 and Luke 5:15-16. If you're never being led beside still waters, then you are not following the Lord. The Shepherd makes us lie down in green pastures. Jeremiah Burrows, a Puritan said, "Never pour wine into shaky vessels." You still it first and then pour. It's the same with us. God has blessings for you, but you need to be still and calm.

Ephesians 1:9-10 speaks of God's "kind intention of His will." He purposed to purpose to adopt us as sons. One purpose is volition, the other purpose is emotional. He delights in it!

Come home and hear your Father's voice again.

3) Prioritize communion, not just connection.

Be with the people of God. Chase a depth with God and a depth with others. It's so much sweeter than anything found on a phone with people you'll never meet.

"Because endless streams can be tapped into at any moment, they have invaded every moment."
Ben Stuart

Discussion Questions

  1. How has the atmosphere of technology changed the way you approach your day-to-day?
  2. Do you feel panic or anxiety if you don't have your phone or are not allowed to check it for a set amount of time?
  3. What are the pros and cons of the technological world we have access to?
  4. Do you find it hard to detach yourself from your computer, phone, or watch? Does it have constant access to you?
  5. Ben Stuart mentioned how we used to use solitude to reflect and then ultimately make changes to our lives. How can you cultivate solitude and prayer in your everyday?
  6. Why are so many of us addicted to our phones?
  7. Read Hosea 2:14-16. How can you re-embrace your salvation rather than validation? What is God's desire for us?
  8. See Mark 1:35 and Luke 5:15-16. How did Jesus model getting into the wilderness? What was His pattern?
  9. Read Mark 4:19. What is the enemy's plan to thwart the Word of God taking root in our lives?
  10. Why is communion with believers so much deeper than connection with a bunch of people?

Scripture References

1Again Jesus began to teach by the lake. The crowd that gathered around him was so large that he got into a boat and sat in it out on the lake, while all the people were along the shore at the water’s edge.
2He taught them many things by parables, and in his teaching said:
3
“Listen! A farmer went out to sow his seed.
4
As he was scattering the seed, some fell along the path, and the birds came and ate it up.
5
Some fell on rocky places, where it did not have much soil. It sprang up quickly, because the soil was shallow.
6
But when the sun came up, the plants were scorched, and they withered because they had no root.
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Other seed fell among thorns, which grew up and choked the plants, so that they did not bear grain.
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Still other seed fell on good soil. It came up, grew and produced a crop, some multiplying thirty, some sixty, some a hundred times.”
9Then Jesus said,
“Whoever has ears to hear, let them hear.”
10When he was alone, the Twelve and the others around him asked him about the parables.
11He told them,
“The secret of the kingdom of God has been given to you. But to those on the outside everything is said in parables
12
so that,

“ ‘they may be ever seeing but never perceiving,

and ever hearing but never understanding;

otherwise they might turn and be forgiven!’

13Then Jesus said to them,
“Don’t you understand this parable? How then will you understand any parable?
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The farmer sows the word.
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Some people are like seed along the path, where the word is sown. As soon as they hear it, Satan comes and takes away the word that was sown in them.
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Others, like seed sown on rocky places, hear the word and at once receive it with joy.
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But since they have no root, they last only a short time. When trouble or persecution comes because of the word, they quickly fall away.
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Still others, like seed sown among thorns, hear the word;
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but the worries of this life, the deceitfulness of wealth and the desires for other things come in and choke the word, making it unfruitful.
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Others, like seed sown on good soil, hear the word, accept it, and produce a crop—some thirty, some sixty, some a hundred times what was sown.”
9he made known to us the mystery of his will according to his good pleasure, which he purposed in Christ,
10to be put into effect when the times reach their fulfillment—to bring unity to all things in heaven and on earth under Christ.
35Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed.
15Yet the news about him spread all the more, so that crowds of people came to hear him and to be healed of their sicknesses.
16But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed.

Psalm 23

A psalm of David.

1The

Lord
is my shepherd, I lack nothing.

2He makes me lie down in green pastures,

he leads me beside quiet waters,

3he refreshes my soul.

He guides me along the right paths

for his name’s sake.

4Even though I walk

through the darkest valley,

I will fear no evil,

for you are with me;

your rod and your staff,

they comfort me.

5You prepare a table before me

in the presence of my enemies.

You anoint my head with oil;

my cup overflows.

6Surely your goodness and love will follow me

all the days of my life,

and I will dwell in the house of the

Lord

forever.

14“Therefore I am now going to allure her;

I will lead her into the wilderness

and speak tenderly to her.

15There I will give her back her vineyards,

and will make the Valley of Achor a door of hope.

There she will respond as in the days of her youth,

as in the day she came up out of Egypt.

16“In that day,” declares the
Lord
,

“you will call me ‘my husband’;

you will no longer call me ‘my master.


Ben Stuart
Ben Stuart
Ben Stuart is the pastor of Passion City Church D.C. Prior to joining Passion City Church, Ben served as the executive director of Breakaway Ministries on the campus of Texas A&M. He also earned a master’s degree in historical theology from Dallas Theological Seminary. He and his wife, Donna, live to inspire and equip people to walk with God for a lifetime.