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The Best Marriage

Ben Stuart
4 Days

A Man Worth Following

Day 4

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Today is the final day of The Best Marriage, and we’re wrapping up this track with a reminder of the ultimate purpose of marriage: to display God for the world to see. 

The only person to carry the title of "hero" perfectly is Jesus, seeing how He ran into the chaos and messiness of our lives to save and sanctify us, laying His life down for our good and His glory. But, we see that inside marriage, there is a place for imperfect heroes to aim toward reaching the bar God set before us.

Summary

Jesus gave us these standards to aim for because He could reach these standards Himself. These responsibilities aren’t impossible to reach, and He isn’t waiting on the side, laughing every time you reach up and your hand barely brushes the tall bar above you. He reached these standards first, putting them in place for us to ultimately experience freedom and flourishing. 

These standards are attainable, and though we may not be flawless in our execution, we must aim for the bar.

Jesus is worthy of our best efforts to use marriage to display Him.

In our mourning and our messiness, Jesus came running. He initiated. He did not wait. While we were sinners, Christ died for us. He didn’t need us to clean ourselves up first—He saw us at our worst and came with kindness, sacrificing everything He had for us. Not only did He come to rescue us, but to sanctify us—having cleansed us so He might present the Church to himself in splendor. Without spots or wrinkles. Holy and blameless. He initiated and sacrificed His life to protect us. 

It’s a joy to follow a hero like that.

Before we get a relationship with anyone else right, we must get a relationship with God right. Our God isn’t trying to impress or hold you back; he’s setting you free.

We follow the man who risks his life to secure us and lead us on whatever mission we’ve been called to accomplish because we flourish under His leadership. Cities and countries will change when we see the family of God live His way, in the same way, it shifted everything for Ancient Rome. They saw our marriages and, in turn, saw Christ. 

The world gets to see the beauty of Christ through Christian marriage, and through people pursuing singleness, God receives whole-hearted devotion.

What's next?

The single most important thing we can do in this life is point people to Jesus. God cares about our desires and takes joy in giving us blessings and providing for us, but ultimately, our lives are not about us. Our mission on this earth, single or married, is to tell people about Jesus and what He has done for us. Anything outside of that withers away.

  1. Has marriage become your focus? How can you shift your priorities so that Jesus sits on top?

  2. How has your understanding of marriage shifted since completing this track?

Scripture References

18The
Lord
God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
22Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.
23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.
24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
17Now if we are children, then we are heirs—heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ, if indeed we share in his sufferings in order that we may also share in his glory.
25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
26to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,
27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.
26to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,
27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.
28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
29After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—
30for we are members of his body.
2Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.

Ben Stuart
Ben Stuart
Ben Stuart is the pastor of Passion City Church D.C. Prior to joining Passion City Church, Ben served as the executive director of Breakaway Ministries on the campus of Texas A&M. He also earned a master’s degree in historical theology from Dallas Theological Seminary. He and his wife, Donna, live to inspire and equip people to walk with God for a lifetime.