How to Date
Are You Meant to Be Together?
Day 5
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Wrapping up the “How to Date” track, Ben Stuart presses into the importance of evaluation in the process of dating. We aren’t meant to date in a hurry; we must be intentional with what we look for and the time we take.
This decision isn’t something we should take lightly; it’s a covenant and a commitment we should treat with the utmost care.
Summary
Date patiently, and trust the Lord. Believe that He is carrying your relationship together.
As you’re holding off your life with some autonomy and that tension is created, you’re giving yourself the space to evaluate if you’re meant to be together. This isn’t the time to be hasty; it’s the time to be observant. As Ben mentions, some people’s sins go before them, and it’s obvious; others follow after.
Maybe you’re like Ben. You feel overwhelmed with constant communication, and in your commitment to purity, you don’t want to get confused with the physicality of your relationship. Maybe it’s time to write letters like he did or make space in your week to call the person you’re dating.
This process is meant to guide you to understand if you’re dating a person because you like interacting with them at an emotional or intellectual level or if you’re just lonely. You can make sound decisions when you remove distractions, like texting all day or getting physical with your partner.
The goal in all of this is for us to find someone greater than the sacrifice of our autonomy and singleness. We want to find the person we’re willing to we want to run through life with in sickness and health and in the highs and lows. Our aim should be to go as slow as we must and as fast as we can and to evaluate if we’re meant to grab hands and run together.
After that is established, there is no time to waste.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.
Proverbs 3:5-6
Trust that He will put you with the right person in the right way and at the right time.
Whether we you up as friends, neighbors, or lovers, be intentional to journey together in a way that both of you flourish because you all walk together after Jesus.
What's next?
If you’re in a relationship, it may be helpful to write down tangible steps you can take to help limit the distractions in front of you in this dating process. If you aren’t dating someone currently, journal the type of person you are and identify what may be helpful in dating in the future.
What limitations could you put forward that would give you the freedom of evaluation in dating?
Re-read Proverbs 3:5-6. Do you trust God enough to allow Him to lead you down the path He has for you? What hesitancies are you faced with if not?
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