Lanie Beth Sinclair

This is a normal and, dare I say, healthy response. Parent to parent, allow me to remind you that you get more than one shot. You get to have continual conversations about salvation and how to live in the light of God’s grace. This particular conversation can be clearly communicated and still have many layers depending on age and life season. Moments add up to hours as we continue the conversation to check in to see if they have questions or wonderings. This layered approach communicates that you want to keep the conversation going, taking some of the pressure off to make it a picture-perfect interaction. The car is the perfect place to talk about theological questions because it gives the child the sense that it’s good to ask questions openly about God, it gives them a way out of the conversation at the end of the ride, and it conveys the ability to talk about things like grace and salvation on a random Tuesday morning. The thing about God is that our relationship with him resembles other relationships, but it is wholly unique. We become believers when we admit our sins and claim that Jesus is who he says he is and resurrected just like he said he would. At that moment, we immediately come from death, dead in our sin and unable to do anything about it, to life, abundant and grace-filled oneness with God because of Jesus’ sacrifice on the cross. It is a great irony that we as parents try to instill a work ethic in our kids with homework and sports, yet when it comes to salvation, we can’t earn it! There are three essential steps in explaining salvation accurately. 1.Pray with your child to admit that they are a sinner. Their understanding of the work of Christ on the cross means they see the story of redemption unfolding and how it includes them. 2.Belief in God is an act of faith that God is trustworthy. When we believe that Jesus’ death, burial, and resurrection can change our hardened hearts, we move from death to life.  But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8  3.In addition to belief, we must confess with our mouths. Speaking our sin and shortcomings aloud is humbling, beautiful, and good. Follow that with a confession of faith in Jesus as the Savior of the world, our beautiful promise of salvation! Romans 10:9 says, “If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.” Lastly, Rejoice! Celebrate! Bless the Lord for the gospel work he’s done in your child’s life. This calls for ice cream! Give thanks to God with your child through prayer, worship, and thanksgiving. Let them know this is a big deal and you are overjoyed to journey with them through salvation. Thanks be to God! You are my God, and I will praise you; you are my God, and I will exalt you. Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good; his love endures forever.  Psalm 118:28-29

They can surprise us and usually come at comically inopportune times; think while you’re at Home Depot or in the middle of an important phone call. Mine came as we pulled into the school parking lot last year, running late with everyone stressed from the morning my daughter asked me to explain the Trinity! ‘Just give me the overview, Mom.’ It makes me laugh recalling that moment because I’m not too proud to tell you that I completely froze and told her we could talk about it after school that afternoon! Significant theological questions are scary, but they are a beautiful sign of God’s active work in our kids’ lives. These ponderings and questions show that they desire answers. And not just answers but insight and wisdom. These are the stirrings of the Holy Spirit in the next generation’s hearts. You don’t have to know all the big words and theories, but we must understand what Scripture says. In Romans 3, Paul lays out a three-step map for a conversation about sin.  This righteousness is given through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe. There is no difference between Jew and Gentile, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and all are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.  Romans 3:22-24 1.‘Only faith in Jesus Christ can give us righteousness.’  Righteousness simply means “right standing.” And right standing is only offered through faith in Jesus. It doesn’t matter how good your grades are or what records you broke on the track team; what matters is faith in the sacrifice of Jesus on the cross. Help your child understand that God isn’t looking for a flawless performance; He already loves who they really are. 2.‘There is no difference between Jew and Gentile, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God…’  Kids understand how a social hierarchy works. Most have come up against someone who ranks higher or lower than them on the popularity scale. This reference is a helpful tool to explain how it doesn’t matter how popular or unpopular you are, how much of a star, or if you have a quiet disposition. Everyone falls short—parents included! Sin is a separateness that cannot close the gap between God and us without Jesus. Take a minute to pause and remind your child that mistakes will happen. This could be a good time to tell a story about a few you made! Mistakes aren’t the problem because we have faith in Jesus, who puts us in Right Standing with God the Father. 3.‘… all are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.’ God creates us with value and purpose. Our sin creates a divide that we cannot cross without Jesus. Confessing that we can’t cross the divide on our own and we need Jesus to redeem our sins frees us from the weight of our mistakes. This freedom makes us righteous but also Just in Christ Jesus. To be justified means we’ve accepted the gift of faith that makes us clean and one with God. We’ve been justified because we are made to have a relationship with him! Our sin is heavy. Being honest and age-appropriate with your kids about that weight is the first step in a Biblical explanation of sin. Romans 3 reminds us that its level ground when we come to Jesus. And aren’t we so grateful for that? As you have these conversations with your kids, be reminded and refreshed that you were also called for a purpose. Pray and ask the Lord to show you ways to lead your children in the path of humility that leads straight to the righteousness and redemption of Christ Jesus.