Talk

Bless the Haters

Ben Stuart
July 3, 2022

The Christian’s allegiance to Jesus often results in being misunderstood and insulted by people around us. But we are not called to passively withdraw or to lash out in anger; we are meant to bless those who disagree with us. Continuing in our Take Heart series, Ben Stuart shows us how Peter encouraged the church to respond to those who opposed them and offers some guiding principles about navigating an increasingly antagonistic culture.

Key Takeaway

We have been called to a better way. When we show love to the culture and they hit us back, we outlast them with our suffering, we out-love their hate. Our inheritance is secure, so what do we have to lose? Do good so that they may come to know Jesus.

How God has called us to live within a culture that hates the values and priorities of Christians.

  • Posture (inward)- loving the family
  • Practice (outward)- blessing your enemy
  • Perspective (upward)- how you hope in God

1. Posture - loving the family

The world may be a hostile place, but your church home shouldn't be. The priorities and values of a familial home are broadened to the Family of God. The core is meant to be strong so you can do heavy lifting. Your inner ring must have strength to reach the outer ring. 1 Peter 3:8 tells us how to do this.

  • Be of one mind- common vision and values, not robots. Everyone is on the same page, unity of mind. See Romans 15.
  • Have sympathy. Pathos means pain: your pain is my pain, we suffer together. Hebrews 4:15 explains that Jesus did this as our high priest.
  • Brotherly love- in Greek it's "philidelphia", it's a sincere love for each other.
  • Tender hearts towards each other - in Greek it is "eusplagchnos" which means "good intestines", we feel things at a gut-deep level, and we are moved by wanting someone's good.

If you don't want to do these things, then you won't have it. It's a family.

2. Practice - blessing your enemy

1 Peter 3:9. Peter is giving directions on how to handle it when they revile you or criticize you in an abusive or angry manner. They are speaking evil about you and therefore slandering you by ignorance. You don't attack them, you bless them. See Psalm 34. Peter also warns against deceit. It's a hateful thing to do. Lying withholds information from someone so they cannot make an informed decision, therefore you hold all the power. It makes their decision benefit you and gives you more power.

It is much easier to not revile than it is to bless your enemy. This is where we reach the limits of ourselves. That's the point. We can only do this through the power of the Holy Spirit. We have to ask ourselves, who is our master? Who are we following? Who are we leading? Who is directing our path? If you are throwing punch for punch, you look like the culture. So, if incivility is rampant, you don't have to look far, but to your own heart to see if you are participating.

3. Perspective - how to hope in God

1 Peter 3:9b-12. For to this you were called! Look to Jesus. Can you imagine if he spit back when He was spit on, or cursed those who pulled out His beard? Throughout everything, He continued to bless and pray for His enemies.

Obtain means inherit, not strive for. An inheritance is given, not earned. It doesn't matter what the world does to you, your inheritance is secure. You are taking your cues from somewhere else. In the same way that Jesus changed the world by blessing his enemies, you can be a change agent in your culture. Through Jesus, God moved toward us with blessing. When we were His enemies and He made an enemy into a friend.

The People of Jesus can dissolve the hate in the culture. Can you bless instead of curse? Can you speak well of someone? Pray for those who persecute you.

We do it because we follow a God who did it. You do good no matter what the culture says. When Peter speaks of seeking peace, he is saying to investigate it, look for ways to bring peace, and then pursue it. The system of "love your enemies" would not work if there was no God. You're going to have a hard time in this system if you don't believe in God.

Verse 12: the Lord's eyes are on you, the righteous. This isn't just a past ancient history thing, it's happening right now. He's aware! He knows exactly what they said and did to you. He is waiting for your prayer. He is just, no one will get away with anything. Sin will be paid for either by Jesus on the cross or by an individual in Hell. When you ponder the justice and severity of God, you praise Him for His mercy. You stop telling Him that you have to get revenge, you start trusting His control. It's not just the past grace of God, but the present sovereign grace of God that can transform your heart. We can be an agent of change. When we show love and the culture hits us back, we outlast them with our suffering, we out-love their hate.

[On retaliation] "Then the devil wins. They're not your enemy, they're your master. They had control over your emotions. They changed you. So, they took something from you and you let them, because they can't change you unless you let them."
Mike Tyson

Discussion Questions

  1. Ben shared how his church tangibly met the needs of those who call it home. Have you been part of the church doing this?
  2. What are the 4 characteristics found in 1 Peter 3:8 that help define how to have a posture that loves the family?
  3. How does the "if you don't want to do these things, then you won't have it" principle play out in real life and family?
  4. When was the last time you were reviled? Spoken about in an angry, critical, or abusive manner?
  5. Why does Peter bring up a warning about deceit and lying? What does our culture say about lying? Does it even care?
  6. Why is it so hard to bless your enemies rather than just not answer revile for revile?
  7. When it comes to retaliation, what are some of the questions Pastor Ben said to ask yourself?
  8. Do you really believe that the people of Jesus can dissolve hate in the culture?
  9. What was Jesus's advice if we are having a hard time blessing and speaking well of someone? See Matthew 5:44.
  10. How is 1 Peter 3:12 a comfort to you?

Scripture References

8Finally, all of you, be like-minded, be sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate and humble.
9Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.
10For,

“Whoever would love life

and see good days

must keep their tongue from evil

and their lips from deceitful speech.

11They must turn from evil and do good;

they must seek peace and pursue it.

12For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous

and his ears are attentive to their prayer,

but the face of the Lord is against those who do evil.”

1We who are strong ought to bear with the failings of the weak and not to please ourselves. 2Each of us should please our neighbors for their good, to build them up. 3For even Christ did not please himself but, as it is written: “The insults of those who insult you have fallen on me.”4For everything that was written in the past was written to teach us, so that through the endurance taught in the Scriptures and the encouragement they provide we might have hope.

5May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had, 6so that with one mind and one voice you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.

7Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God. 8For I tell you that Christ has become a servant of the Jews on behalf of God’s truth, so that the promises made to the patriarchs might be confirmed 9and, moreover, that the Gentiles might glorify God for his mercy. As it is written:

“Therefore I will praise you among the Gentiles;

I will sing the praises of your name.”

10Again, it says,

“Rejoice, you Gentiles, with his people.”

11And again,

“Praise the Lord, all you Gentiles;

let all the peoples extol him.”

12And again, Isaiah says,

“The Root of Jesse will spring up,

one who will arise to rule over the nations;

in him the Gentiles will hope.”

13May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.

Paul the Minister to the Gentiles

14I myself am convinced, my brothers and sisters, that you yourselves are full of goodness, filled with knowledge and competent to instruct one another. 15Yet I have written you quite boldly on some points to remind you of them again, because of the grace God gave me 16to be a minister of Christ Jesus to the Gentiles. He gave me the priestly duty of proclaiming the gospel of God, so that the Gentiles might become an offering acceptable to God, sanctified by the Holy Spirit.

17Therefore I glory in Christ Jesus in my service to God. 18I will not venture to speak of anything except what Christ has accomplished through me in leading the Gentiles to obey God by what I have said and done— 19by the power of signs and wonders, through the power of the Spirit of God. So from Jerusalem all the way around to Illyricum, I have fully proclaimed the gospel of Christ. 20It has always been my ambition to preach the gospel where Christ was not known, so that I would not be building on someone else’s foundation. 21Rather, as it is written:

“Those who were not told about him will see,

and those who have not heard will understand.”

22This is why I have often been hindered from coming to you.

Paul’s Plan to Visit Rome

23But now that there is no more place for me to work in these regions, and since I have been longing for many years to visit you, 24I plan to do so when I go to Spain. I hope to see you while passing through and to have you assist me on my journey there, after I have enjoyed your company for a while. 25Now, however, I am on my way to Jerusalem in the service of the Lord’s people there. 26For Macedonia and Achaia were pleased to make a contribution for the poor among the Lord’s people in Jerusalem. 27They were pleased to do it, and indeed they owe it to them. For if the Gentiles have shared in the Jews’ spiritual blessings, they owe it to the Jews to share with them their material blessings. 28So after I have completed this task and have made sure that they have received this contribution, I will go to Spain and visit you on the way. 29I know that when I come to you, I will come in the full measure of the blessing of Christ.

30I urge you, brothers and sisters, by our Lord Jesus Christ and by the love of the Spirit, to join me in my struggle by praying to God for me. 31Pray that I may be kept safe from the unbelievers in Judea and that the contribution I take to Jerusalem may be favorably received by the Lord’s people there, 32so that I may come to you with joy, by God’s will, and in your company be refreshed. 33The God of peace be with you all. Amen.

A Sabbath-Rest for the People of God

1Therefore, since the promise of entering his rest still stands, let us be careful that none of you be found to have fallen short of it. 2For we also have had the good news proclaimed to us, just as they did; but the message they heard was of no value to them, because they did not share the faith of those who obeyed.3Now we who have believed enter that rest, just as God has said,

“So I declared on oath in my anger,

‘They shall never enter my rest.’ ”

And yet his works have been finished since the creation of the world. 4For somewhere he has spoken about the seventh day in these words: “On the seventh day God rested from all his works.”5And again in the passage above he says, “They shall never enter my rest.”

6Therefore since it still remains for some to enter that rest, and since those who formerly had the good news proclaimed to them did not go in because of their disobedience, 7God again set a certain day, calling it “Today.” This he did when a long time later he spoke through David, as in the passage already quoted:

“Today, if you hear his voice,

do not harden your hearts.”

8For if Joshua had given them rest, God would not have spoken later about another day. 9There remains, then, a Sabbath-rest for the people of God; 10for anyone who enters God’s rest also rests from their works, just as God did from his. 11Let us, therefore, make every effort to enter that rest, so that no one will perish by following their example of disobedience.

12For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. 13Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of him to whom we must give account.

Jesus the Great High Priest

14Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has ascended into heaven, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to the faith we profess. 15For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet he did not sin. 16Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.

Christ’s Sacrifice Once for All

1The law is only a shadow of the good things that are coming—not the realities themselves. For this reason it can never, by the same sacrifices repeated endlessly year after year, make perfect those who draw near to worship. 2Otherwise, would they not have stopped being offered? For the worshipers would have been cleansed once for all, and would no longer have felt guilty for their sins. 3But those sacrifices are an annual reminder of sins. 4It is impossible for the blood of bulls and goats to take away sins.

5Therefore, when Christ came into the world, he said:

“Sacrifice and offering you did not desire,

but a body you prepared for me;

6with burnt offerings and sin offerings

you were not pleased.

7Then I said, ‘Here I am—it is written about me in the scroll—

I have come to do your will, my God.’ ”

8First he said, “Sacrifices and offerings, burnt offerings and sin offerings you did not desire, nor were you pleased with them”—though they were offered in accordance with the law. 9Then he said, “Here I am, I have come to do your will.” He sets aside the first to establish the second. 10And by that will, we have been made holy through the sacrifice of the body of Jesus Christ once for all.

11Day after day every priest stands and performs his religious duties; again and again he offers the same sacrifices, which can never take away sins. 12But when this priest had offered for all time one sacrifice for sins, he sat down at the right hand of God, 13and since that time he waits for his enemies to be made his footstool. 14For by one sacrifice he has made perfect forever those who are being made holy.

15The Holy Spirit also testifies to us about this. First he says:

16“This is the covenant I will make with them

after that time, says the Lord.

I will put my laws in their hearts,

and I will write them on their minds.”

17Then he adds:

“Their sins and lawless acts

I will remember no more.”

18And where these have been forgiven, sacrifice for sin is no longer necessary.

A Call to Persevere in Faith

19Therefore, brothers and sisters, since we have confidence to enter the Most Holy Place by the blood of Jesus, 20by a new and living way opened for us through the curtain, that is, his body, 21and since we have a great priest over the house of God, 22let us draw near to God with a sincere heart and with the full assurance that faith brings, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water. 23Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful. 24And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, 25not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.

26If we deliberately keep on sinning after we have received the knowledge of the truth, no sacrifice for sins is left, 27but only a fearful expectation of judgment and of raging fire that will consume the enemies of God. 28Anyone who rejected the law of Moses died without mercy on the testimony of two or three witnesses. 29How much more severely do you think someone deserves to be punished who has trampled the Son of God underfoot, who has treated as an unholy thing the blood of the covenant that sanctified them, and who has insulted the Spirit of grace? 30For we know him who said, “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” and again, “The Lord will judge his people.”31It is a dreadful thing to fall into the hands of the living God.

32Remember those earlier days after you had received the light, when you endured in a great conflict full of suffering. 33Sometimes you were publicly exposed to insult and persecution; at other times you stood side by side with those who were so treated. 34You suffered along with those in prison and joyfully accepted the confiscation of your property, because you knew that you yourselves had better and lasting possessions. 35So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded.

36You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised. 37For,

“In just a little while,

he who is coming will come

and will not delay.”

38And,

“But my righteous one will live by faith.

And I take no pleasure

in the one who shrinks back.”

39But we do not belong to those who shrink back and are destroyed, but to those who have faith and are saved.

Psalm 34

,

Of David. When he pretended to be insane before Abimelek, who drove him away, and he left.

1I will extol the

Lord
at all times;

his praise will always be on my lips.

2I will glory in the

Lord
;

let the afflicted hear and rejoice.

3Glorify the

Lord
with me;

let us exalt his name together.

4I sought the

Lord
, and he answered me;

he delivered me from all my fears.

5Those who look to him are radiant;

their faces are never covered with shame.

6This poor man called, and the

Lord
heard him;

he saved him out of all his troubles.

7The angel of the

Lord
encamps around those who fear him,

and he delivers them.

8Taste and see that the

Lord
is good;

blessed is the one who takes refuge in him.

9Fear the

Lord
, you his holy people,

for those who fear him lack nothing.

10The lions may grow weak and hungry,

but those who seek the

Lord
lack no good thing.

11Come, my children, listen to me;

I will teach you the fear of the

Lord
.

12Whoever of you loves life

and desires to see many good days,

13keep your tongue from evil

and your lips from telling lies.

14Turn from evil and do good;

seek peace and pursue it.

15The eyes of the

Lord
are on the righteous,

and his ears are attentive to their cry;

16but the face of the

Lord
is against those who do evil,

to blot out their name from the earth.

17The righteous cry out, and the

Lord
hears them;

he delivers them from all their troubles.

18The

Lord
is close to the brokenhearted

and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

19The righteous person may have many troubles,

but the

Lord
delivers him from them all;

20he protects all his bones,

not one of them will be broken.

21Evil will slay the wicked;

the foes of the righteous will be condemned.

22The

Lord
will rescue his servants;

no one who takes refuge in him will be condemned.

20But how is it to your credit if you receive a beating for doing wrong and endure it? But if you suffer for doing good and you endure it, this is commendable before God.
21To this you were called, because Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example, that you should follow in his steps.
22“He committed no sin,

and no deceit was found in his mouth.”

23When they hurled their insults at him, he did not retaliate; when he suffered, he made no threats. Instead, he entrusted himself to him who judges justly.
24“He himself bore our sins” in his body on the cross, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; “by his wounds you have been healed.”
25For “you were like sheep going astray,” but now you have returned to the Shepherd and Overseer of your souls.
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But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,

Ben Stuart
Ben Stuart
Ben Stuart is the pastor of Passion City Church D.C. Prior to joining Passion City Church, Ben served as the executive director of Breakaway Ministries on the campus of Texas A&M. He also earned a master’s degree in historical theology from Dallas Theological Seminary. He and his wife, Donna, live to inspire and equip people to walk with God for a lifetime.