Talk

Single

Ben Stuart
June 9, 2019

Kicking off our new collection, Single, Dating, Engaged, Married, Ben Stuart dives into what scripture says about singleness. We see that there is a purpose in the season of singleness, and we have to get a relationship with God right before we can get a relationship with a guy or girl. Ben reminds us not to miss the benefits of the season we are in because we are pining away for the benefits of another season.

Key Takeaway

Singleness is a gift from God that has a purpose. It is a time to devote yourself to the Lord. God encourages us to use the freedom that comes with singleness to please Him and build His kingdom.

1.  Singleness is a gift from God.

2.  What we want is not always what is best for us; what is best for us is not always what we desire.

3.  God puts us in a season of singleness so we can draw close to Him.

4.    We must stop looking for a partner to do what only God can do.

5.    Don’t let your longing for a marriage cause you to miss out on your single season.

6.  Leverage your singleness and maximize this season with the freedom and time God has given you.

7.    Singleness is an opportunity to please the Lord.

8.    Singleness is for devotion to the Lord.

“God has ordained a season of singleness not for us to fill it with distractions or career ambitions, but to pursue an undistracted devotion to Him.”
Ben Stuart

Discussion Questions

  1. Do you trust God with the season He has put you in?
  2. Is your season of singleness marked by learning how to please the Lord?
  3. How can you leverage your singleness?

Scripture References

7I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that.
28And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
35I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.
29What I mean, brothers and sisters, is that the time is short. From now on those who have wives should live as if they do not;
30those who mourn, as if they did not; those who are happy, as if they were not; those who buy something, as if it were not theirs to keep;
31those who use the things of the world, as if not engrossed in them. For this world in its present form is passing away.
9Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men
10nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.
11And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.
1Now Jesus learned that the Pharisees had heard that he was gaining and baptizing more disciples than John—
2although in fact it was not Jesus who baptized, but his disciples.
3So he left Judea and went back once more to Galilee.
4Now he had to go through Samaria.
5So he came to a town in Samaria called Sychar, near the plot of ground Jacob had given to his son Joseph.
6Jacob’s well was there, and Jesus, tired as he was from the journey, sat down by the well. It was about noon.
7When a Samaritan woman came to draw water, Jesus said to her,
“Will you give me a drink?”
8(His disciples had gone into the town to buy food.)
9The Samaritan woman said to him, “You are a Jew and I am a Samaritan woman. How can you ask me for a drink?” (For Jews do not associate with Samaritans.)
10Jesus answered her,
“If you knew the gift of God and who it is that asks you for a drink, you would have asked him and he would have given you living water.”
11“Sir,” the woman said, “you have nothing to draw with and the well is deep. Where can you get this living water?
12Are you greater than our father Jacob, who gave us the well and drank from it himself, as did also his sons and his livestock?”
13Jesus answered,
“Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again,
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but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.”
15The woman said to him, “Sir, give me this water so that I won’t get thirsty and have to keep coming here to draw water.”
16He told her,
“Go, call your husband and come back.”
17“I have no husband,” she replied.

Jesus said to her,

“You are right when you say you have no husband.
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The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have just said is quite true.”

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The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have just said is quite true.”
19“Sir,” the woman said, “I can see that you are a prophet.
20Our ancestors worshiped on this mountain, but you Jews claim that the place where we must worship is in Jerusalem.”
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“Woman,”
Jesus replied,
“believe me, a time is coming when you will worship the Father neither on this mountain nor in Jerusalem.
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You Samaritans worship what you do not know; we worship what we do know, for salvation is from the Jews.
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Yet a time is coming and has now come when the true worshipers will worship the Father in the Spirit and in truth, for they are the kind of worshipers the Father seeks.
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God is spirit, and his worshipers must worship in the Spirit and in truth.”
25The woman said, “I know that Messiah” (called Christ) “is coming. When he comes, he will explain everything to us.”
26Then Jesus declared,
“I, the one speaking to you—I am he.”
32I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord.
33But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife—
34and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband.
8Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do.
9But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
11Jesus replied,
“Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given.
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For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others—and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.”

Ben Stuart
Ben Stuart
Ben Stuart is the pastor of Passion City Church D.C. Prior to joining Passion City Church, Ben served as the executive director of Breakaway Ministries on the campus of Texas A&M. He also earned a master’s degree in historical theology from Dallas Theological Seminary. He and his wife, Donna, live to inspire and equip people to walk with God for a lifetime.